So, it turns out we are leaving Europe. It also appears I feel quite emotional about the whole situation.
I wasn’t that interested in the entire Brexit debate. I figured I didn’t care that much but decided that it would probably be better to remain than leave and duly sent my vote off in the post.
The prospect of leaving would perhaps bring a fresh dawn, with a new sense of opportunity. Plus, knowing I had voted to remain if it all went wrong, I would have the knowledge it wasn’t my plan.
Politics annoys me. I hate the way that you must stand by viewpoint A or aspect Z. There is no comprehension in the media that there are 24 other places to stand. Every position has to be the polar opposite, and each politician must adopt a position point and defend it even if they don’t completely believe it.
As a result, we are treated like fools and given Apocolypse or Xenophobia (that worked better until I realised Xenophobia doesn’t begin with Z). With so much noise and headlining, I never sat down, digested or evaluated my true position.
I listen to the news on the way to work and its all the same old people arguing the same old things without anyone understanding the others position or showing signs of weakness.
In the real world, we all have weaknesses, a difference of opinions with the ones we love, and for a successful relationship usually a good portion of compromise.
The emotions I have had since the EU referendum are akin to a separation, even though it wasn’t my choice – perhaps my friends made me do it as she was cramping our style.
I didn’t realise how much I liked her, I didn’t realise how much she did for me, I didn’t understand the opportunities we had together.
Luckily I still have my mates?
As a parent and as a business owner I have a responsibility to my family, my colleagues and my Son to always do the very best for their futures. The decisions I make are with the understanding that mine and their success is intertwined.
I trust the people around me to provide colour and contrast. To speak their mind, understand the viewpoint of others and then challenge it.
I always thought that my friends and family were a reflection of the world. Even after the last general election when Labour supporters lamented the economic proposals of the Conservatives. I felt that although I wouldn’t say I am a conservative, the plan would be best for the short term future. My friends were split and perhaps feeling like I feel now… but they accepted the plan and businesses around the UK made austerity work.
Today my friends aren’t split. The majority of my peers all wanted to remain, and it turns out I really really really wanted to stay within the EU.
Politics has a lot to answer for, and we should have seen it coming. In the previous election the Liberal Democrats believed that the best thing for the country was to support a coalition, perhaps unaware it would so harmful to their party, but no doubt thinking the general public would understand.
Again, grey lines aren’t permitted in the media. No compromise or weakness is allowed.
I can’t think of anyone who’s opinions I always agree with. I would never have pinned my colours to a badge – it is too restrictive and polarising.
However, if nothing else, I have realised, right or wrong, I can’t trust in the outlook of the majority as that majority does not reflect my perspective on the world.
Since the Brexit vote, I have joined the Liberal Democrats. It cost me £12. Nothing more. My soul remains intact, and I am not wearing sandals.
They want to remain in Europe, and although even to me it sounds like sour grapes, I still don’t see another route that gives me hope that the United Kingdom can be the open minded, welcoming, optimistic and forward thinking country I believed it was.
Perhaps I wouldn’t mind if there was a plan, but it sounds like we are going to the discussion table with the same arrogance the England football team did against Iceland.
If there is the plan, perhaps it will be great, but as a business owner with a family and a belief in teamwork, I am yet to see that in the midst of all the in fighting.
Amongst all the doom, gloom and headlines news, it is very easy to get caught up in the negativity of the whole situation. I feel sad that the half of us who wanted to remain cannot be represented as any compromise would be against the people’s will… how does that work?
But it will be fine because the exit from the EU has to work.
I have a responsibility to my family to provide an income; I have a responsibility to my staff to ensure they are protected and can flourish. I have a responsibility to do the best for my peers. I have a future to prepare for my little boy.
Leaving the European Union has to be a success for the United Kingdom. It might not be the plan I want, I might not know what the plan is going to be, but we have to ensure that the views of the half of the UK who wanted to remain are reflected in democracy as much as those who wanted to leave.